Can You Love Others If You Do Not Love Yourself?

I found a quote the other day about being at peace with yourself. This is it:

The joy of love is possible only if you have known the joy of being alone, because then only do you have something to share. Otherwise, two beggars meeting each other, clinging to each other, cannot be blissful. They will create misery for each other because each will be hoping, and hoping in vain, that “The other is going to fulfil me.” The other is hoping the same. They cannot fulfil each other. They are both blind; they cannot help each other…

In other words, we cannot rely on others to give us unselfish love, if they are still searching for that love themselves.

Neither can we give unselfish love to another human being, if we are still looking to them to reflect love back to us. They will be incapable fo doing so, and so will we.

This happens in relationships a lot. We look for someone we hope we can live our loves with. And that is ok.

But if we are expecting that relationship to give us all the love we need, we are mistaken. And our partner. If he or she is also looking to us to fulfill their needs for love, then they will find us wanting.

And so the relationship will fail. It may struggle on as we search for some way to find that love. But if we cannot love ourselves, we will be looking in the wrong place.

We cannot cure our loneliness by relying on the love of others. We have to be at peace and harmony with ourselves first.

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